Surprisingly, even people who are successful and confident in other areas of their lives have these negative thoughts. Insecurity will rear its ugly head in our relationships at some point in our lives, but it's when it sets in permanently, that it makes it difficult to have a relationship with your man. You find yourself harboring jealous feelings or negative thoughts about your spouse or boyfriend.

You have irrational fears about your life with your partner and whether the relationship will last. All of these are symptoms of insecurity. Most often, insecurity stems from a poorly developed sense of self and low self-esteem. Insecure people often lack belief in their goodness, skills or abilities. Insecurity can have lasting effects on a relationship. It can cause you to question every compliment or any praise you get from your partner.

If you don't get help, you can become very possessive and driving your partner away. Insecurity can lead to a severe breakdown in your relationship. Most often in relationships, we tend to mirror how we feel about ourselves and radiate the insecurity we feel outward. It's a feeling of inadequacy deep within us, that's often hard to shake.

By overcoming insecurity in your relationships, you can beat the inner turmoil that results from feeling that you are certainly doomed to fail. To start on the path to getting help, check out these informative books on the subject '" Conquering Insecurity: Secrets to a More Confident You by Deborah Smith Pegues and Secure in Heart: Overcoming Insecurity in a Woman's Life by Robin Weidner.